Abandonment, envy and decades of hate: 7 bad examples of fatherhood in history and culture

Just as shining examples of fatherhood abound throughout history and literature, their stark opposites testify to the complex bond that sometimes develops between father and son. Here’s a look at six bad (and terrible) parenting experiences that impacted history and culture.

Marvin Gay Senior

The Reverend’s Education Marvin Pentz Gay has always been described harshly by his children, notably by the most famous of them, the eldest son Marvin Gaye, who even added an e to his surname to distance himself from him-

His daughter Jeanne describes him as a “almighty and cruel king”, notably with its namesake, listing physical and psychological abuse. On April 1, 1984, after a long family feud, the Reverend shot and killed Gaye Jr. with a gun the singer had bought for him.

Genghis Khan

There are no details on the number of children he had. Genghis Khan, although it is estimated that there were hundreds. A 2003 study noted that 8% of men in 16 Asian populations (and 0.5% of men worldwide) were descendants of the Mongol conqueror.

The vast majority of his children he has never met. It is estimated, according to the ABC portal, that it caused more than 40 million deaths. His heirs continued their plan to conquer Eastern Europe, the Middle East and China. His last descendant in power, at least the last official, was deposed in 1920.

Herman Kafka

In a 100-page letter, dated 1919, Francois Kafka He described years of emotional abuse and intimidation that his father, Hermann Kafka, inflicted on him at key times in his life.

Although the letter was never sent, “Letter to the Father” went down in history as a fundamental text in his bibliography, and as a radical reflection on the father-son relationship.

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“It is unpleasant to hear the father speak with constant insinuations about how lucky people are today and the suffering he had to endure in his youth. Nobody denies that for years, for lack of warm clothes, he had open wounds on his legs, that he was hungry or that at only 10 years old he had to push a car from town to town. (…) Just because I did not go through these same trials, should I be eternally grateful? And I would love to hear him talk at length about his youth and his parents, but listening to all this in an arrogant and bellicose tone is torture,” wrote Franz Kafka in the letter collected by the Millennium portal.

Pablo Neruda

Malva Marina, daughter of Pablo Neruda Born in 1934 from hydrocephalus, she died at the age of eight after a life marked by estrangement from her father, future Nobel Prize winner, whom she saw for the last time in Monte-Carlo when he was still married to Maria Hagenaar Vogelzang.

Malva’s last days were poor and tragic. After Neruda’s abandonment, she and her mother moved to the Netherlands, to Gouda, where the young girl came into the care of a Christian family after periods of hardship and financial need. On March 2, 1943, Malva Marina died in the Dutch town.

Part of this story is told and explored in the biography “Neruda: The Poet’s Call” (HarperCollins, 2018), by American Mark Eisner.

alois hitler

He is no less than the father of one of the most controversial and evil political leaders in history, adolf hitler.

The future Nazi leader was born from the marriage of Alois and his niece Klara. From the beginning, the relationship between the two was bad and distant. It is even said that the man was ashamed of his son’s talent for the arts.

Blows and insults were common in the childhood of Adolf, who rebelled against his father’s authoritarianism. Alois wanted his son to be a customs officer, like him, while the boy wanted to be an artist. Terrible combination.
Ian Kershaw, British historian and author of one of the Nazi leader’s biographies, explains that the little boy was the main target of his anger when he returned home, for which he frequently punished him.

Decades after the end of the war, Paula Hitler, the dictator’s sister, stated in numerous books that Alois’ beatings of her children were commonplace. These included whipping with belts, punching in the face, slapping on the buttocks and even kicking.

It is very likely that Hitler’s evil character was forged in this harsh childhood, marked by violence.

murry wilson

Known is the gravity which murry wilsonrepresentative and father of the brothers Carl, Dennis and Brian Wilson, embryo of the Beach Boys, exerted on his children and not only during the first stage of the group, when he was manager.

Abuse, both physical and psychological, was common during the Wilsons’ childhood and particularly affected the famous composer. In the mid-sixties, with all this family and personal history in tow, Murry was fired from his job after unsuccessful business maneuvers.

Part of this story is told in the biopic “Love & Mercy” about Brian Wilson. In the plot, the father is played by Bill Camp, while the role of the musician goes to John Cusack and Paul Dano.

Vissarion Dzhugashvili

At first glance, his name does not say much, but if you are told that he is the father of Joseph Stalin, the situation changes completely.

Historian Simon Sebag Montefiore, author of one of the Soviet leader’s biographical books, explains that Vissarion was a man who wanted his clients to pay him for his work as a shoemaker with bottles of wine, for which he usually returned home drunk. home. rape their relatives.

The blows to his son were recurrent and the boy lived in a constant state of anguish and anxiety confronting him at night. His mother used to defend him when the man picked on him, although it usually cost her too to be touched.

But where does all this hate come from? During those years, Vissarión Dzhugashvili lived with the idea that his wife had been unfaithful to him with another man from the city of Gori, for which he considered Joseph not his son and called him a “bastard”.

One day the man beat the boy so badly that he urinated blood. At that moment, his mother realized that she had to leave him, because both of their lives were in danger.

According to Montefiore, before this happened, little Stalin once attacked his father with a knife. Although it did him no harm, it was the miner’s only warning to his father. After that, they never saw each other again.

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